About Coach Larry Clay Lonis - Speaker and Krav Maga / Business Coach

Larry Clay Lonis:

After surviving a life as a child that most are amazed that he lived through, Coach Larry Clay Lonis has done wonders for the business and Martial Arts world.  While being known for controversial methods of teaching in the business world and in Krav Maga, he has produced amazingly successful and proficient Martial Arts and Business Students.

From Coach Larry ClayLonis personally:

Technically, this is supposed to be my “About Page”, so I'm supposed to be writing about myself. And, since I have you for this short moment, I'd like more, to tell you something that you need to hear right now. First, you'll notice I'm not selling anything on this page. Second, I’m willing to bet you are only working in a fraction of your highest capability. YOU...CAN...DO...MORE, and enjoy the process! You have yet to discover your true excellence; and you definitely have excellence that you don't even know you have! You have yet to grab hold of the full power of your best ability. You may be letting the worries and fears get the best of you – that’s normal, but not optimal. You have much to offer, and I want you to 'stop missing the bus'. Listen...if there's anyone who has every excuse in the world to just lay down and die, it's this guy right here.

Here's a few bullet points for you just so you understand:

·      My Father was gone before the day I was born.

·      My First Stepfather killed himself.

·      I was raped for around 6 months as a child (Around age 6).

·      I was left neglected and starving with very little food for long periods of time -Sometimes days...sometimes weeks.

·      As if this wasn't enough, my second Stepfather was one of the most violent, feared,  and verbally abusive people you could have ever met. He was known around my hometown of Lubbock, Texas as "Uncle Nasty".

·      I moved out of that home when I was 16

While I thank God for a Sister that was only 9 years older than me who was there to take care of me up until I was 7 years old, and for the prayers of my Grand-parents who were afraid to do too much in fear that if they were found out, it would only make things harder on my Sister and I, do you know what I figured out and what I was told??? I was told by a Christian Counselor that the most savage attack on my life wasn’t that I was beaten, starved, neglected, or even raped.  He said [READ THIS, MEN] the most horrific thing that ever happened to me was that I was left without a positive male role model as an example in my life.

What I haven’t told you yet…

1. I forgave, but I didn’t say forgiving was easy.

2.  I didn’t say it didn’t affect me.

3.  I didn’t say people didn’t hold it against me or use my past to their advantage when trying to make me look bad or make themselves look better. 

4.  I didn’t say my life got easier.

5. I didn’t say there weren’t ideologies that I didn’t know were wrong that I didn’t had to get over and totally RELEARN what was actually right.

BUT WHAT I AM SAYING, IS THAT WHILE I’M FINE WITH MYSELF AND UNDERSTAND I’M IN MY OWN PROCESS, I WANT TO CONSTANTLY BE A BETTER PERSON, AND WILL NOT LET MYSELF BE CONTENT WITH FAILURE WHEN IT HAPPENS.

Here is something else I will tell you,

I mentioned this before, but it was the best advice(warning) that I ever got, and it was EXACTLY SPOT-ON.

“There will be haters”….

Seriously…everyone thinks (rightfully so) that they are a likeable and good person. Some of us don’t even realize our “bad intentions” and in many other cases, don’t even realize those intentions are “bad”.  Keeping that in mind is the only thing that has helped me not just absolutely want to annihilate a few people.

Here’s what I mean:

People WILL use your past against you.  You know that scripture that warns you to not “throw your pearls before swine”??? Heck, I had a ‘best friend’ in college use my past against me.  Ya see, I was so embarrassed about my history that I let some people who had recently become good friends with me think that I had no parents.  They, I think, assumed that my parents died when I was younger, and to be honest, I was glad to let them think that.  When it finally came out that my parents were alive, I told them the truth of course and along with the truth about my history so they would ‘understand’.   Unfortunately a guy who I considered to be a best friend wanted to date a girl that had her eye on me used that info against me.  He (easily) made me look like a liar, told her about my history, and said I lied to them about my Parents, and soon started dating her himself.

Here’s another example… (Don’t worry…this isn’t a gripe session…this all relates and you’ll see why shortly).  Currently, there is a ‘gentleman’ out of my hometown that finds GREAT joy in following me around (on the internet) and trolling me like a 13 year old little girl, and wreaking havoc like an amazingly ‘brave’ keyboard warrior.  He’s a previous student of mine that tells everyone I “went to a Krav Maga training WITH HIM in Atlanta” (weird how he likes to word things that way, btw…don’t you think) and absolutely waits for anything he can find to make it look like I have made a mistake, and go insane about it online – posting on every Martial Arts and Business forum that he can, while writing fake reviews under fake names (like ‘Lubbockite’ and ‘RedRaco’), on my google business pages, and just generally talking as much trash as possible.  NOT TO SAY I’M PERFECT, because like anyone, I’ve made some bad decisions…a couple really bad ones….and paid for them. But when other people focus on YOUR mistakes and harp on them profusely, just know that they must have issues so big that they know they can’t conquer, so they have to focus on yours and amplify what they want people to think about you.

Here’s the crazy thing about that.  I was there for this guy through his divorce, and through his crying and moaning about every time he was cheated on and/or dumped, there for him every time he had a bout with a pretty hardcore disease that he has, and there when he just needed to be around someone.  He decided to dislike me when the Krav Maga Association I was with told me to “never bring him to ANY function of theirs EVER AGAIN”.  He needed someone to blame and hate in his humiliation, and even though I felt bad for him through yet another rejection (which he handles horribly), he still…TO THIS DAY AFTER 15 YEARS…stalks me and tries to tear my life to pieces online.  (He’s never agreed to meet me publicly even though he has been offered to MANY times btw).

SO MY POINT IS… Not only be prepared that people in general will disappoint you and talk trash, but EXPECT IT and know that even the people you know, like, help, and care about will talk trash, and/or even turn against you when you start to do anything big, because of their own jealousy, lack of self worth, and character flaws.  People are competitive, they are jealous, and they sometimes some of them will do whatever they can to make themselves look better and feel valued by others, even if it brings the most negative aspects out of them, and is extremely detrimental to others.  There is a reason I have 5 “REAL” friends that I’ve had for 20 years and more, out of the 1000’s of people that I have met and/or gotten to know.

LASTLY….A little saying I've come to value that made a huge impression on me and one I have to remind myself of constantly is this..."Accept no criticism or judgment from anyone you wouldn’t gladly trade places with".

I hope you found this helpful, and I hope it motivates you to reach for your highest and hardest goals while being prepared for (and even ok with) people disappointing you.

Feel free to check out other blog articles I’ll have coming up on forgiveness, anger (and why it’s ok), trust (what it’s not and why we are not “supposed” to trust), and the reason it’s ok to be “Blinded by success”.

Let me know what you thought,

Coach Larry ClayLonis

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